Thor Interviews Mistress Intensity

Thor: Do you see novices?

Intensity: Yes... Quite often as a matter of fact. I like to see novices because it lets me train them so that they are the perfect slave "for ME!" I like knowing that most of the training they will get will be from me. I also however encourage them to see other Mistresses so that they can see what other Mistresses expect and make their own decision about whether I am the best Mistress for them. If I think that a novices desires or fantasies are something that I cannot accommodate, I will recommend another Mistress to them.

Thor: How do you feel they are different?

Intensity: They are more malleable. Less set in their ways and easier to train. For instance, I only allow slaves to say 5 things during a session. Yes, Mistress.
No Mistress.
Thank you Mistress.
Mercy Mistress (or other designated safeword).
Permission to speak. (and then if given permission, they may speak freely)
Many slaves who have had the freedom to speak freely in the presence of their Mistress have a hard time staying within the guidelines. I enjoy doing things with them that they have only fantasized about, but
have never done. I like to teach them new ways to enjoy the pleasure of the punishment and the sweetness of reward :)

Thor: I know I would have difficulty with asking for permission to speak, I have such a big mouth.

Intensity: Many slaves do, but that makes it more fun to punish them when they screw up :)
Thor: How long have you been Dominant?

Intensity: Since I was very young. I remember getting frustrated when my teachers told
me to do something I didn't want to. Even in 1st grade. I wanted to give and be generous, but from a position of power. I hated to be told what to do and was always a little rebel as a result. It was my dream to have complete power over men, but that is quite difficult when you are only 2 feet tall :) I do remember power struggles in my relationships as I grew up, but not many because I tended to choose men that would naturally be submissive to me. Mama's boys, wimps, nerds, loners, artists, small guys, etc... These were the ones I could SEE the submissive side of. Many of them grew up to be dominant though. It seems to vary. Some children who are naturally submissive grow to be dominant and take back the power they always wanted, but never had and some grow to love submission because it is all they know. I grew to take the power that I never had, but always craved and felt I deserved...

Thor: Interesting, to be caring and being in a position of power. This kind of reminds me of a good mother. Do you view what you do as being maternal at all?

Intensity: I see clients that are into infantilism as well. I am their "Mommy" so to speak. I do NOT however mix infantilism with S/M. Babies are seen as real babies and I only do what a real Mommy would do. I realize that didn't quite answer your question. I guess you could call me Maternal. I suppose it's just that I realize that with the power comes great responsibility. When you control a human being, their life is in your hands. So you must take on the responsibility of a "Mother" so to speak in caring for your slaves well being as well as his tolerance to pain :)

Thor: How did you discover it, and how did you first handle it?

Intensity: I found myself smoking cigarettes at a young age to go against the norm in the rich, snotty town where I grew up. I found myself purposely disobeying parents (but rarely teachers... I had a lot of respect for teachers... they helped me to learn and grow) because I watched them try to tell me what to do and although I knew in my head it was for my own good... I would not do it because they tried to make me. I needed to show them that I had the power. I had a boyfriend in 3rd grade who I used to chase around the schoolyard with lipstick in my hand. I would rub it on his face so everyone would know he was mine and then tell them that I did it. One day at his house (our parents
were friends), I made him wear it on his lips. Blood red lipstick. He looked like a girl. I can still see his baby face with that bright red lipstick. I didn't understand it then, but looking back now, it all makes sense :)


Thor: That is so funny, when I was in 2nd grade I was in love with a girl named Isabel. She would chase me around the school yard, if she caught me, I had to be her slave. I always made sure I got caught. Do you find that sessions are a way of getting in touch with childhood play?

Intensity: I guess so. I used to play Dungeons and Dragons (a role play game) in high school I was always the Evil Queen who seduced the men and took all their money :) If only I knew then what I know now~!!!

Thor: How long have you been a professional dominant?

Intensity: About 6 years. I started out as a stripper. Most Pro-Dommes hate strippers turned Domme, but I don't really care much who hates me... it's the ones that like me that I care about :) I was stripping in a club and a man came up to me and asked me to do a "private dance" in the back for him. I went upstairs and got the toy cuffs that I used to make them wear. If they were cuffed, they couldn't touch me :) I put them on him and danced and teased him. When we were done he asked if he brought a whip next time if I would whip him in the dance room. I said sure... thinking he would never come back. He did. I remember the first time I heard the whip hit his denim clad bottom as I stood straddling him as he remained on his hands and knees on the floor. The sound of the leather made me soak my panties! It was so amazing. Later that night I had to smack a guy who tried to touch my ass because I had forgotten to put the handcuffs on him. The smack had the same effect. I hung the cuffs on my belt at that point so I would never forget to use them again and then hung the whip that my client had given me on the other side to balance out the weight. In almost every picture of me, I am wearing this belt. That is how it started. My first private session was from a client at a different bar. He> asked me to go back to his room and smack him around and offered to pay a bouncer to go with us. At 500 dollars I couldn't refuse :) Since then I have purchased near $80,000 in wardrobe and equipment. I have been independent for 6 years now. Just a few weeks ago I started working in a professional dungeon at Angel Stern's Chambers. I got tired of the interviewing and e-mails etc... I still do see clients privately, but love the dungeon atmosphere that I never had access to before and am doing the majority of my sessions there.

Thor: it is interesting what you say about starting out as a stripper. First of all I know more than one prodomme who was first a stripper. Did you feel isolated when you were working independently?

Intensity: I felt that there was much more I could learn if I were in the right environment. I knew that it would take a very long time to learn everything on my own. I always knew that there were others like me, but I wanted to know them and share with them and learn from them.

Thor: What are your taboos? What won't you do in a session?

Intensity: I will never tell a slave they are worthless. Useless maybe, but not worthless. Everyone is worth something... even slaves. Things I will not do?

Pretty much typical. No kids, animals, sex or sexual contact. Rarely bloodletting. I do verbal humiliation, but do not do verbal abuse. Maybe because it happened to me as a child or because of the way I view humanity. I don't know. I also do not do asphyxiation scenes. Too dangerous. Then again, when I started out, there was a lot that I said I would never do (play piercing for example!) that I now do quite often. Brown showers are very rare and for clients who regularly do extended sessions and who I have established a close relationship with. Taboo? A slave calling me by my real name in session... that will get the sh*t smacked out of you!
Thor: Having done brown showers can you explain the psychology of it for me. I understand golden showers, but I just can't understand Brown showers, what do you think the psychology of the turn is?

Intensity: I don't truly enjoy them unless they are done for a specific purpose. I see BS as a way of truly humiliating a slave and helping him to learn his place as even unworthy of a beautiful womans feces. I think that is one of the main reasons slaves desire it. Humiliation. Another reason is because it is the ultimate forbidden act. It is the "most" dirty and vile thing a slave can do. I can't say I agree with that, I can think of worse :)

Thor: What are your specialties?

Intensity: Hmmm... that depends :) Do you mean what do I enjoy most? Or what am I best at? They are both similar, but I will list only the things that I have extensive experience with. "I enjoy wearing a strap-on because of the power that goes with it".Wearing and having a slave suck my cock (or forcing him to is my biggest turn on!) Dressing a man as a woman also has a similar effect. Full Feminization (wig, undergarments, makeup, dress, gloves, shoes, stockings, etc...) is a huge turn on. I get to be the man :) I take great pleasure in hot wax play. Spitting on my slave (or in his mouth when he earns it :) . Using a riding crop on a slaves firm buttocks until the are beet red! Boot worship. Anal Play with buttplugs and other fun toys eventually leading to stretching and fisting.

Thor: What is your favorite kind of client?

Intensity: One who will help me to learn new things as I teach him to serve me and a slave who will take anything I give him :) As I said before, I also love novices for their malleability (is that a word? No pun was intended! :)

Thor: What kind of client turns you off?

Intensity: One who thinks that he should tell me what I should do to him for the time we spend together. One who demands things from me. One who thinks he "deserves" something that I do not offer. One who does not enjoy submission, but likes to try to top from the bottom (fighting subs).

Thor: You went independent first and now you are at Angel Sterns, that's unusual:)

Intensity: Yes... I get almost 200 e-mails a day. I answer every one of them myself as I do not trust my e-mail to a secretary. I have been doing this for quite some time now. I may be only 25, but I am tired. I want to enjoy what I do without all the extra work. Lazy of me, isn't it? I take an online application and then I interview every client in person (or on the phone for out of state clientele) before I will see them for a session. This means that I only have time to do 1 session a day. Usually more like 3 or 4 a week. I sometimes travel to my clients sometimes and that also adds stress. Now I can do more than one session in a day and actually enjoy it when I can stay in one place and just do and enjoy the sessions without the problems of traveling to the ends of the earth and getting security for each session. I still have to do the e-mails and the interviews, but it is just a lot more fun now and I really enjoy being around the other Mistresses at Angel Stern's. They are very intelligent and have made me feel very comfortable there. I also (since this is my first time working regularly at a dungeon) found people I can relate to. It is a great feeling knowing you are not alone :)